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My dreams aren't your dreams!

Can I get a witness?  NO female is less of a person because she didn't push a human out of her midsection and no man is less of a person because he didn't have good aim.
There are MANY childless people who have done more to influence and protect children than many parents do!
As a daycare teacher, I parented your children while you were at work.  As an educator's spouse, I parent your children when they show up to a function without lunch money or are depressed because of what's happening at home.
Don't EVER say to an ADULT, your PEER, that they aren't fulfilling their life's mission because they aren't parents of a child.  PLEASE don't ever imply that we don't know enough about children to give you input when you open up about failing, and PLEASE, don't infer that we don't deserve recognition as productive adults!  Not only do many child-less people nurture and foster MANY children, but many often work much harder to cover the slack of  parents who don't take their responsibility seriously.
Even those who don't have regular contact with children are doing things in life that DESERVE recognition!  Many people without children are doing the many things that you, as a parent, don't have time to do.  Picking up the slack, if you will!

The past week has presented a number of thoughts on a number of things, but if I shared them all here, this would be more of a novel than a blog post.  Perhaps I'll stretch them out over the next week or so!
So, do me a favor!  As those infamous "parents only" holidays approach, and as graduations and other momentous occasions near, don't forget that it takes a village and we're all working toward the same goal!!

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